Families remember loved ones with hospice garden
A woman whose mother was able to spend her final days at home with her family thanks to help from a hospice is calling on people to take part in Celebrate Lives Lived this spring.
Veterinary nurse Lucy Gunn and her dad Peter have joined St Giles Hospice's annual celebration, which remembers lost loved ones, each May since Lucy’s mother Nancy died in 2019.
Every year the Lichfield hospice invites people to dedicate an orange peg in the shape of a flower in one of its gardens in Whittington and Sutton Coldfield between May 1 and 31, as well as a virtual garden on the hospice’s website, in return for a donation.
Funds raised from Celebrate Lives Lived dedications help to fund the hospice’s work caring for patients and their families living with a terminal illness.
Lucy said: “I’ll always support St Giles Hospice following the care my mum received, and memorial events like Celebrate Lives Lived are so important. They help to keep the memory and spirit of your loved ones alive.
“The Celebrate Lives Lived garden at Whittington is beautiful, so peaceful and quiet, and seeing all the colourful Gerbera pegs with the names of our loved ones on them is so comforting.
“St Giles understands that death is not the end of the story – our loved ones lived, were loved and they meant so much to so many people.
"Remembering loved ones through events like Celebrate Lives Lived means a lot to us and we mark the occasion on our calendar every year.”
Lucy, who is from Tamworth but now lives in Hinckley, said that her mother was diagnosed with lymphoma in 2017 and always wished to die in her own home.
“The day mum was diagnosed as being terminally ill was really the first time I heard about hospice care and St Giles Hospice,” she added.
“It was very important to mum that she could stay at home and when they told us it was an option it made such a difference. We had hospice nurses coming in twice a day – as soon as we opened the door to the nurses the darkness lifted; they were there for us just when we needed them most.
“Having the care of St Giles Hospice was such a help and such a relief to us all. My dad and I couldn’t cope on our own but the nurses came in and they did everything they could to help.
"They would never do anything without talking to mum first and letting her know, whether she was able to respond or not.
“As well as ensuring mum received the medical care she needed, the nurses also helped to put on face cream, do her hair and asked whether she wanted any perfume on.
"It all seems like very little things, but they were treating mum as an individual and they gave her what she wanted.”
Lucy said that her 10-year-old son, Keir, was very close to his grandmother and the hospice helped him through his grief thanks to Phoenix, its dedicated bereavement support service for children and young people.
It costs St Giles Hospice more than £10 million each year to deliver the care it provides at its inpatient unit, out in the community, and in patients’ own homes – and every Celebrate Lives Lived dedication helps to support families like Lucy’s.
Each Gerbera is a colourful handwritten peg, personalised with the name of a loved one. They are placed in the garden throughout May, creating a display of celebration and remembrance.
Sally Redmond, the 'in memory' manager at St Giles Hospice, said: “The orange gerbera is a symbol of joy, happiness and warmth – the perfect tribute to a loved one.
"You’ll find our Celebrate Lives Lived gardens at our hospice sites in Whittington and Sutton Coldfield and they are open to everyone who wants to remember a loved one, not just those families cared for by St Giles Hospice.
“At the end of May, we’ll let you know when you can collect your gerbera peg to display in your home or garden.”
Anyone wanting to take part in Celebrate Lives Lived can make a dedication online before 12pm on Tuesday April 19 at stgileshospice.com/celebrateliveslived or by calling 01543 432538.
