West Midlands Police urge public to 'ask for Angela' if Valentine's Day dates go wrong

But if you go out on a date that goes wrong — whether you've been catfished or made to feel uncomfortable in any way — you don't have to struggle in silence. 

Instead, West Midlands Police are raising awareness of a discreet way people can get help if they need to leave an unsafe date — Asking for Angela. 

Ask for Angela is a national campaign that helps people feel safe in bars, restaurants, and other venues. It's a code phrase that people can use to discreetly ask for help if they feel unsafe, vulnerable, or threatened.

If you're on a date and things aren't going well, or something feels off, go to the bar and ask for ‘Angela’. Staff will then know you need help and can provide assistance - whether it's by separating you from your date and moving you to a place of safety, calling a taxi, or alerting security if necessary.  

In a statement on the West Midlands Police website, a spokesperson said: "We've been working with local bars and clubs to implement and promote the Ask for Angela campaign.

"We want to make sure that licensed venues are safe spaces for everyone. Our efforts have focused on training for staff, bartenders, managers and security guards. We're equipping them with the knowledge and skills to respond effectively and discreetly when someone asks for Angela.

"We've also been distributing posters for Ask for Angela so they can be displayed in places like toilets and behind the bar. The idea is to make sure everyone knows this option is available if they start to feel vulnerable or unsafe at any point during their night."

The force also offered other safety advice including letting a friend or family member know where you're going, sharing your location, ensuring your phone is fully charged before leaving the house and never leaving a drink unattended.